When you`re depressed it may seem impossible to keep relationship
going. When you feel terrible it becomes a real challenge to support
your partner and let him support you as well. However you shouldn`t
isolate yourself during the tough times because if you can`t deal with
poor emotional state on your own, your boyfriend and other people who
love you can help you handle it. Lots of couples break up when one
partner suffers from depression but fortunately there are several tips
on how to keep your relationship going even if you feel depressed
1. Find someone to rely on
You`re going through hard times but you`re not the
only one who has ever experienced this feeling of
loneliness and sadness in life. You can find someone who has also had
the same problem in the past. That person can help you deal with it
faster because they know what you feel and what you need to hear to
overcome your depression. Find someone you can trust and you won`t feel
lonely in your relationship. Just because your partner doesn’t know how
to help you doesn’t mean you should break up with him.
2. Think about your partner’s feelings
Depression makes you feel Disgust*ng and it damages
your self-esteem. You may feel like you don`t care about what will
happen to you in future. However you can think about your partner’s
feelings. Have you ever seen him suffering from anxiety or depression?
You probably wasn`t happy about that, right? You wanted to help him and
you felt worried. Therefore, you don`t need to neglect feelings of those
who love you. Your partner also suffers when you feel miserable. If you
love him, don`t ignore his care and do your best to overcome this
little obstacle on your way to happiness
3. Don`t isolate yourself
One of the ways to save your relationship when you feel depressed is to
do at least small things with people who care about you. It can be a
little coffee date, a road trip or a short walk in the park. These small
things will truly help both of you feel a bit happier. Even though they
don`t take a lot of your time and strength, they show your partner that
you still remember about him and you really need him in your life.
4. Try something new
What is depression? It`s the result of some unpleasant circumstances
that took place in the past. Those circumstances were the result of your
everyday actions – things you always do, and your habitual behavior. In
order to change your current bad feelings, try to do something new with
your partner. You may try to go shopping to some unknown places
together. Or, take a new hobby or do something you`ve always wanted to
try.
5. Think about the future
When we`re suffering from depression, we mostly think about the past
mistakes, the present moment and how terrible we are now. But it`s
better to think a bit about the future. Don’t dwell on it, though. Now
you don`t want anything but how do you imagine yourself a few years
later? You`re not going to suffer from depression forever, so try to set
some important goals for your nearest future.
6. Don`t idealize
If you`re a perfectionist, you may feel ashamed of your emotional state.
You may think your partner shouldn`t know what you feel. There`s no
need to idealize yourself. You feel sad but you can`t be perfect all the
time. Everyone has difficult moments in life and no one can be
absolutely happy all the time. Don`t hide what you feel from him and
don`t think that it`s the end of the world. Of course, you didn`t expect
to have a depression but life is unpredictable so don`t worry, you`ll
feel better again quite soon.
7. Journal for depression
When I suffered from depression a few years ago, it was hard for me to
feel happy with my husband. My doctor recommended me journal for
depression to get rid of my problems. The result was surprisingly quick
and really great. After three days of writing down everything I was
going through, I was able to figure out what were my flaws and why I
lost so many friends. Depression makes it difficult to think clearly so
why not keep track of your feelings on a daily basis? It will give a
more clear picture of what you should do to recover faster. Write down
at least a few sentences every day and you`ll see a positive
emotional progress in a few days.
Yes you`re suffering from the worst disease in the world now but
don`t let it take yourself away and lose important people in your life.
Gather all your power and think about your partner and his happiness.
You don`t want him to suffer with you, especially because of you.
Just stay strong and don’t give up.
What is the most difficult thing for you when you`re suffering from depression?
